Fur What It's Worth: Training Red Flags & Finding the Right Help

A new year often brings fresh goals, and what better one than investing in your dog’s training? Whether you’re welcoming a puppy or fine-tuning life skills with your longtime companion, training is about more than just manners. It’s about creating safety, ease, and a deeper bond.

The challenge is this: the world of dog training is full of conflicting advice. Some of it is thoughtful and science-based, while other “tips” can be downright harmful to your dog and to your relationship with them. Sadly, many outdated, fear-based methods are still circulating, sometimes even promoted by people calling themselves “professionals.”

Let’s shine a light on what to avoid, and how to choose the right path forward.

Red Flags: Training Advice to Run Away From

If you ever hear (or see) these, it’s a clear sign to look elsewhere:

• Alpha myths: Anything about “spitting in food,” biting your dog’s ear, or “showing dominance” is outdated and harmful. Dominance theory has been widely debunked.
• Fear tactics: Throwing objects, startling with balloons, or punishing barking with water bottles doesn’t teach, it only scares.
• Cruelty disguised as training: Hog-tying, hitting, humping, or drowning-based punishments are not only abusive but dangerous.
• Shock collars rebranded as “gentle taps”: Electrical shocks aren’t harmless attention-getters. They cause pain and stress, and often damage trust.
• Rigid pack rules: Forcing eye contact avoidance, insisting on “pack leader” roles, or using intimidation as a foundation undermines a healthy bond.

Training should never leave your dog fearful, hurt, or shut down. If you’re left feeling uneasy about what’s being recommended, trust your instincts.

What to Ask Before Hiring a Trainer

Jean Donaldson, a highly respected trainer and author, suggests three powerful questions to guide your choice:

1. What happens to my dog if they get it right?
2. What happens to my dog if they get it wrong?
3. Are there less invasive alternatives to what you propose?

Reflect on the answers. If the methods could harm your relationship, break trust, or cause fear, it’s time to move on.

Positive Paths Forward

There’s so much hope and help available, trainers and resources rooted in kindness, patience, and science. Look for those who practice force-free, reward-based training.

A few excellent starting points:

• Pet Professional Guild: An international community of trainers committed to positive reinforcement (R+).
• Victoria Stilwell Positively: A rich hub of articles, videos, and certified trainers across the globe.
• Local humane societies and veterinary behaviorists: Many now emphasize reward-based methods.

Remember, every trainer is unique. Do your homework, ask thoughtful questions, and don’t be afraid to walk away if something feels wrong.

A Gentle Reminder

Good training isn’t about “breaking” your dog’s will or asserting dominance. It’s about clear communication, trust, and teamwork. The best methods strengthen the bond you already have, making life calmer and more joyful for both of you.

Your dog deserves training that makes them feel safe, confident, and loved, and so do you.